Skip to main content

Fickle ol' solidarity

At some point in March when this virus deemed that it had spread so far that it could be called a pandemic, I told the girls they should do video journals to remember the days of living in a pandemic. Here now in the middle of April, I realize that I need to write for myself and the girls can just have lots of regret when they're older because they didn't do what I said.

When the whole world started moving to stay-at-home orders, I felt such a strong sense of solidarity.  I looked at all of us (literally all of us - okay, most of us) in our different areas of the world facing this beast together.  Jimmy Fallon's wife filmed him hosting from home.  John Krasinski started SGN in his home office.  Everyone was joking about toilet paper, sweatpants, and cutting your own bangs. Italians were singing from their balconies.  Wuhan folk were singing from their high-rises.  Hospitals in NYC were being surrounded by patrol cars each evening with lights flashing and sirens going to show their love for the medical staff inside.  I knew that staying at home looked differently in every part of the world and that being ordered to not leave your house was scary and soul-crushing for many people but I still felt like this virus had in a horrible way brought us all into each others lives.  I really felt like we were #allinthistogether.

Then last night my heart started to unravel. It was a short few weeks of feeling like we're battling together and then to last night when I realized we could only keep that up for so long. And it's much shorter than my optimistic head had imagined.  It just feels too quick for folks to start screaming and pounding on the walls of solidarity, demanding that the economy come before life.  But I get it.  I actually do. Our system of gaining and keeping wealth, healthcare for some, and just general lack of compassion for life is one where we come to places where we have no choice but to fend for our own.  Solidarity can only take us so far as a hashtag.

Today has felt heavy.  It feels like my heart has lost some of it's resilience.

I see my daughter thrilling in the accomplishment of riding her bike with no hands - just zooming down the road, the breeze in her face and her arms loosely at her sides.  I have coffee in my perfectly light blue mug on the front lawn.  Folks stop at a socially expected 6 feet distance from my lawn chair and say the normal sunny day phrases and the "How are you guys doing?" that means so much more these days.  We banter back and forth knowing that the other one actually cares.  I feel the solidarity and finish my coffee. 

Popular posts from this blog

happy birthday

Today I am 29 years old. I don't mind being a 29 year old. It has it's advantages, I'm sure. It's only 7:33am so I don't really know how my actual birthday is going to be but yesterday was great. After a meeting here at home with the other Seminary English teachers, Phil told me that Terri (coworker) wanted to see me the office. I knew something was up and when I walked into the office everyone was standing there, Terri was holding a cake with candles, and they all started singing "Happy Birthday". I wasn't surprised that they did something but I was surprised to have everyone there at that moment singing to me. I'm enjoying a piece of the spice cake right now with coffee. They also made me a really sweet card that was very encouraging. Terri and Buddy(dog) came over around 5pm last evening so that Phil and I could go out. I knew we were going to a restaurant and I knew we should dress a little nice. We both looked nice but we couldn't...

still cooking

As of today we are 4 days late. That is assuming that man can accurately determine the day a baby should be born. Which, obviously, he can not. So, we wait. The thing with pregnancy is that most woman began to really anticipate that Big Day about a month before the due date and so when that day comes and goes it has been a long time of waiting. I keep trying to remember 2 things. One, when she comes our nice little family of 3 will be forever altered and two, she will come. In fact, she will come by the end of next week if not sooner - thanks to the ability to induce. So in the mean time I'm able to blog with both eyes wide open, take Madeleine swimming on a whim, have dates with Phil whenever and stay up late watching "Numbers" without worrying about my sleep debt. Not so bad when you think of it that way.

All these posts

Somewhere in space are all these posts that people write.  I've had this blog for years now and I hardly ever use it but it's still always here.  Who is that person that finally says, "Okay, enough is enough. Your blog is gone."? I'm tired.  It's Saturday afternoon at 4pm.  I'd like to nap longer or watch a movie.  I don't want to play chu chu train and I don't want to take a slow toddler paced walk outside.  I don't want to start making pizza but I should, which means I need to go buy tomato paste, make the sauce and make the crust.  I'm feeling lazy and a hard thing with being a parent is that when you're lazy, others in your life have the potential to starve. We're looking at buying a house.  It's not an easy thing to do when the house is on one side of the globe while you're on the other.  When I want to get something done, I want it done now.  So, that's making this process hard.  We're at the mercy of east...